Valentines day

This article was posted in February 2009 and it is still worth a read.

Valentine’s Day

Red Heart made by a reflective glass material, isolated on white background with clipping path. St. Valentine & Love concept.

What was the first thing that attracted you to your significant other? Was it kindness, passion, beauty, or a sense of humor? Over time it is easy to forget what the thing that brought the two of you together.

Last summer I was at a wedding and was mesmerized by the groom’s parents; the way they were dancing, the look in their eyes and the way they communicated through their eyes. I was curious. Later that evening, I casually approached them and spent some time to find out the key ingredients to their success.

I learned that the happy parents of the groom had been married to each other for almost 50 years! That’s an impressive track record. They shared with me how they’ve been able to stay together for so long:

Have fun both together and apart. To stay happy, a couple need not be together all the time. Too much of a good thing can be unhealthy. Allow yourselves the opportunity to pursue your own passions separately.

Trust & support. On their very first date, the groom’s mother had expressed that attending church was an important part of her upbringing. Whoever she married had to go to church with her every Sunday too. It’s been 50 years since her spouse’s been going to church with her. A promise made and a promise kept.

Passion. “The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything.” While the couple of 50 years did not have everything they needed, that did not discourage or stop them from living life to the fullest.

Appreciation. Let your partner know how much you appreciate him/her even if your partner already knows. You can never say this too many times. Don’t try to change the other person. Celebrate, accept and appreciate your differences.

End on a good note. Never go to bed upset with your partner. Resolve your issues before going to sleep. The next morning will bring a new day, and a new beginning, for hope, growth and love.


To all who are lucky to be in love, have a happy and meaningful Valentine’s Day. And if you’re single and looking, keep your options open and remember that love often happens when you least expect it.